The Secrets to Calming your Mind

Have you ever considered what it's like to overdraw your financial accounts the same as it is to overdraw your emotional accounts? Do you even know when you overdraw your emotional accounts? You may or may not already know. But the overdraw of your emotional accounts has the same adverse impacts as it does when you overdraw your financial accounts. And I can tell you that you don't want to be the one overdrawn your financial accounts any more than you want to overdraw your emotional accounts. But I don't think you need to hear that from me. In this episode, we're going to discover what it looks like to overdraw from those emotional accounts, how do we replenish them, and what the cost of those overdraws AR. But before we get into it, let's take a look at how I do it in my own life. We used to have this thing called a puff ball jar. It was the way that we would reward our kids for good behavior. Let's not get around. It was bribery. For all intents and purposes, it was our way of telling them that there was a behavior that we enjoyed from them. And it was methodical the way that we would give them these puff balls, the puff ball jar was rather small. And in that puff ball jar, it had different lines so that you didn't have to fill all the thing up the line was tattooed around the side of it with a grease pencil. And my daughter and son would get a puff ball when they were kind to each other. When they do acts of service for each other. They would clean up the house, whatever it was, but inside that puff ball jar, it was a two way street. And the kicker of the puff ball jar was that if you did things that were bad, we would take the puff ball away. It was like a debit or a credit into the puffball jar. And it became this motivator for the children to be able to act appropriately to get inputs into their football journey. At the end of it they got a prize. When they fill it up to the first line, they get an ice cream treat the second line, they would get some type of little toy. And then the third line that was actually something that they would get a toy. I don't remember what we did specifically. But what's interesting about that, in our business life, it's easy to see those parallels about how we put those puffballs into our own jar. We get business wins, we get new contracts, we get new customers, we hire new employees, we have banner years, and is easy to see how those puffball jar contributions that we make inside our own life into our own businesses. When we get to the top we get to reap those benefits and rewards, is it not? It's easy to see how we do that. But what about in the emotional components of our lives? What about those intangible things that you can't figure out where you're making the contributions and where you're making the withdrawals? You might have noticed in your life that there are specific times and circumstances where you can tell that you're making the withdrawals, but you don't exactly know that the account is overdrawn. You might have seen that your relationships begin to falter that your employees become frustrated, disenchanted, seem to lose their accountability and enthusiasm as they go along the way. It's these overdraws that get us into this perpetual state of frustration inside our business. And today we're going to discover a couple of things that we can do about it. And I'm excited to get into a conversation about trust. And the episode of Brene Brown's recent podcast and I'll tag it up in the show notes that talks about trust gives an incredible definition where she discusses braving as her definition of trust. And we're gonna get that to the end, where I give you the seven ingredients to developing trustworthy relationships. It's good for your family. It's good for your spouse, your children, your co workers, your friends, and it's an impeccable way to make more contributions to the puffball jar. Then you make withdrawals inside your own life. The good news is that most entrepreneurs are financially sound enough to not overdraw their financial accounts, but we're not savvy enough necessary airily, to be able to not overdraw our emotional accounts. And you don't have to take my word for it. But these emotional accounts exist everywhere employees, co workers, friends, spouses, children, they all exist. The problem is that most entrepreneurs are wired to think analytically, we solve the majority of our problems using our left brain.